Online LGBTQ+ Counsellor · UK‑wide
LGBTQ+ affirming counselling, with a counsellor who already gets it.
I’m a Trans/Non‑Binary, BACP‑registered counsellor offering online sessions to LGBTQ+ adults across the UK. You won’t need to translate yourself. Your identity is the starting point, not the topic.
What “affirming” means here
It isn't a buzzword. It's the baseline.
“LGBTQ+ affirming” gets used a lot online. In my practice it means something very specific: your gender, your sexuality, your relationship structure, and your body are not problems we are here to fix, soften, or interrogate. They are the starting point we work from.
I won’t ask you to explain what a pronoun is. I won’t go quiet when you mention your partner. I won’t suggest you might be “going through a phase”. I know what minority stress is, what compulsory heterosexuality looks like in someone’s history, how religious trauma can settle into the body. We can spend our time on what you actually want to look at — not on educating me.
Who I work with
I see lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, non‑binary, queer, questioning, asexual, and intersex clients. I also support people in non‑monogamous relationships, those navigating polyamory, and partners of trans people. If you don’t see yourself in those words, that’s fine — bring whatever language you use, or bring no language at all. I’ll meet you there.
What we can work on
Some of the things people bring to LGBTQ+ counselling.
This list isn’t exhaustive — it’s a snapshot. If something you’re carrying isn’t here, please bring it anyway.
- Exploring gender identity — at any age, in any direction
- Coming out to family, friends, or at work
- Navigating transition — social, medical, or simply considering it
- Gender dysphoria, and the less‑talked‑about experience of gender euphoria
- Family rejection, estrangement, or distance
- Healing from religious trauma or conversion practices
- Minority stress, hypervigilance, and the exhaustion of being "on"
- Internalised homophobia, biphobia, or transphobia
- Relationship difficulties — same‑sex, mixed‑orientation, or non‑monogamous
- Polyamory, ENM, and partnership structures the mainstream hasn't caught up with
- Coming out later in life, or to yourself
- Being the LGBTQ+ partner, parent, or sibling of someone else who's coming out
Why see someone who shares the experience
You're allowed to want a therapist who already knows.
Not everyone wants a counsellor who is themselves part of the LGBTQ+ community — and that’s a valid choice. But many of my clients tell me, in our first session, how much it matters that they don’t have to explain. They don’t have to give me a glossary. They don’t have to wonder, mid‑sentence, whether I’m going to misinterpret what they’ve said.
That doesn’t mean we’ll have the same experiences — every person’s queer life is their own. But the cultural shorthand is shared. The starting line is closer to where you actually are.
“What I want, more than anything, is for you to walk away from a session feeling more, not less, yourself.”
All sessions are online by video or phone. This is particularly useful for clients in smaller towns, in rural areas, or in communities where attending an in‑person clinic might raise questions you’d rather not answer yet. From your sofa, your car, or a quiet room at work, we can do real, genuine therapeutic work.
If this resonates
Some of the things my clients say in our first session.
“I just don’t have the energy to explain it all again.”
“I want to talk about being trans without it always being the topic.”
“My last therapist was lovely, but I could feel her thinking.”
“I came out years ago, but some of it still hurts in a way I can’t put my finger on.”
“I’m in a poly relationship and I don’t want it to be the only thing we talk about.”
“My family still uses the wrong pronouns. I don’t know what to do with how much that hurts.”
Looking for an LGBTQ+ affirming counsellor in the UK?
A free 30‑minute call is the easiest place to start. No commitment, no pressure — just a conversation.
I respond within 2 working days.